I've noticed in the last year there's slowly be an a slow introduction of seemingly aggressionistic/confentational nuance in here. This nuance has led, directly or indirectly, to two or three instances of straight up, fuck you, slam, dis , put downs... dosen't feel to me like we should be putting each other down in these community threads. also, feels we should be mindful of our intentions, and mindful of what energies, reactions and conitations our approach may take. Theres been sevral discutions i'd like to jump in on or start, but the vibe, and or, the fear of creating a chance for the icky to arise detours me, and probably others. When communication and group situations get frustrating in an emotional way I sometimes think of the Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agrements...


BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.